Review: Purpose

Purpose: the reason for which something exists or is done, made or used, an intended or desired results; end; aim or goal.

I remember years ago when I was in high school I would rush home after the final bell so I could be home to watch Oprah at 4 p.m. It was literally the highlight of my day. There was one show in particular she did talking about purpose and your life’s purpose and how until she found her purpose she was just living life, instead of living life. There’s a difference.

When you do not have a purpose you’re lost, mentally, emotionally all of the above. I don’t want to say you begin acting out, but you do. There are stages; since you have not found yourself or who you are, you go looking in different places. Whether it’s a bar for a drink, a Bloomingdales, solace in your room with a TV remote or home with a stranger. The aimless wandering through life is much different than the enjoyment of life. The person who doesn’t have their purpose is selfish, they are trying to find themselves so they do not have time for anybody else. How was your day? What new stuff are you working on? Any plans this weekend? These are not things you will hear from this person. The person who doesn’t have their purpose is reckless; they don’t have a bigger picture for their life so all that matters is the now. What will bring me the most pleasure now? What will make for the best story tomorrow? What will make me feel good now, look the best now. They want what they want, when they want it with no regards on how it will affect the future. The person who doesn’t have their purpose has no compassion; this might have come off as a little harsh, what I mean is that they have trouble empathizing with others. When someone makes sacrifice in their life to fulfill their purpose, pinching pennies to travel abroad and teach underprivileged children, moving to a small town because they want to break into the news scene, or quitting your job to pursue a career in writing some people might not understand. Some people won’t get it.

People will ask “Why are you leaving your great career?”, “How are you going to accomplish all of this?”, “What if you meet someone?”, “How are you ever going to save enough money to buy a house?”. Sometimes your purpose doesn’t fall within the ‘norm’, you might not have a 9-5, or a nuclear family with 2.5 children, a dog and a husband, you probably won’t float along the path of life that everybody else does, you might break out and be a little different but that’s ok because at least you’re working towards a goal, a goal that makes you happy, fulfilled and gives you a reason to get up in the morning. Makes you excited about life, about meeting new people, doing new things, taking risks and living.

Review: Interviewing

I’ve been interviewing for a new job and its really bringing back old memories of my former hustle Now that I’m older and so much wiser its really hard for me to not answer these interview questions honestly.

What are my weaknesses? Consistently being 1-9 minutes late (never more than 10, that would be unprofessional). Strengths include being able to look like I’m actually doing work when in reality I’m watching Real Housewives of Atlanta. What would I bring to the team? A level of profanity previously unheard of in the work environment and a very impressive snack drawer when my co-workers blood sugar starts to drop a little low. In the next 5 years I see myself on a yacht showering in Dom and playing with my baby liger.

image1 (my snack drawer, I wasn’t lying)


Things I should be doing with my tax return money

  • Paying my credit card bill
  • Donating it to the church
  • Hiring someone to clean my apartment
  • Buying hard warmers for my gloves
  • Paying my student loans

Things I am doing with my tax return money

  • Buying glam glow products
  • and spending the rest on a new purse

The Secret to Life p2.

When you’re in high school, college or a recent graduate and someone asks you “so what do you want to do” and you “answer I don’t know” more than likely they will say “oh well that’s no problem”

About that. It actually is a problem.

Por ejemplo: Lets say Jane wants to go into journalism, in high school she would work on the school paper, in college she would write for the campus new station and after graduation she would work for her local paper or better yet move away to some small town to get her start. Now lets say Jane doesn’t discover this passion of hers until later in life, say her junior year of college. She tries to join the school newspaper but since shes new she has to go through an entire 9 months of training and doesn’t get a chance to start writing until the end of her junior year/beginning on senior year – which by the way is the time in your life when you are out job hustling.

Now of course this doesn’t apply to you if you are a business major, an accounting person, a scientist or maybe a developer, a teacher. But for all of you out there who are not left brained, it’s a problem. You need to know what you want to do and you need to know early, you need to work at it, you need to hone it and you need to believe it. People will tell you “you don’t need to worry about it, you can figure it out later”, but why? Why put off what the inevitable? why wait to pursue your passion until after you graduate from college? or even from high school? why not figure out what it is and pursue it. Pursue it so you’re not playing catch up your first few years out of college. Pursue it so you don’t end up like me.