When does the disconnect come in?
When do you start to feel uncomfortable in your situation?
When do you realize you’re actively suppressing your feelings?
When do you think you’re beginning to overthink things?
When do you realize that the things you’re feeling are not your own?
That they’re actually those of somebody else?
When do you realize you’re actually fine and this is what you wanted along.
When you keep a secret from your friend and they find out and start giving you shit about it, then they ask you why you kept it from them in the first place
The fearful-avoidant (sometimes called anxious-avoidant) share an underlying distrust of caregiving others with the dismissive-avoidant, but have not developed the armor of high self-esteem to allow them to do without attachment; they realize they need and want intimacy, but when they are in a relationship that starts to get close, their fear and mistrust surfaces and they distance. In psychology this is called an approach-avoidance conflict; at a distance the sufferer wants to get closer, but when he does, the fear kicks in and he wants to withdraw. This leads to a pattern of circling or cycling, and the fearful-avoidant can often be found in a series of short relationships ended by their finding fault with a partner who seems more threatening as they get closer to understanding them.